Last place for the good girls

So I read my good friend Lilly Valentin’s Blog and I had actually been thinking about all that just this past week and here is my rendition of her blog. My ideas were inspired by her and what she said in her blog.

Good girls, the best girls time and time again do finish last. Because men seem to want the nice apple at the top of the tree but tend to stick with the bumped and bruised ones at the very bottom. The worthy girls are the ones that stick by these supposed men day in and day out, through the mistakes, the screw ups, the tears, and the pain.

Sometimes I wonder if men think at all… Men want the “nice girls”, give them the nice girl and they look the other way. Give them the nice girl and they screw up and mess up their chance. Give them the opposite and they wonder where they went wrong, what did they do to deserve the mess.

Men… keep in mind the good girls won’t be there forever sitting in front of you like an idiot because YOU ALL seem just not to get it. They’ll be there as the good friend as always but once you lose that chance… it’s lost. So don’t be afraid to be afraid, because they are too. Don’t be afraid to wear your emotions on your sleeve, to let them in, because they’ve already done it. When you come across a good girl, a keeper be smart about it. They say practice makes perfect, well all those whores, sluts, uncompassionate, mind-playing girls are practice so when that good girl comes along you don’t screw up. Yet you all seem not to get it still, because again and again you men mess up the best thing you probably ever had.

When she’s right in front of you… are you smart about it and make her yours, treat her right or continue to screw up and play games?! What gets me is this… Men say they want good girls yet like Lilly said the moment the good girl is there men come up with all sorts of excuses. I’m not ready, I can’t settle down yet, I have too much going on… blah blah blah blah blah. Now I know you all have brains so answer me this… If you’re not ready then why’d you date the bad girl, why’d you sleep with her, make her yours. Haha because she’s the slut, the easy one? Or because you just can’t take the challenge us good girls bring to the table?

So make a decision… the good girl or the other one, the girl of your dreams or the nightmare. You cannot have both, it just doesn’t work that way. I can say I am proud to be a good girl, as are all the other good girls out there. So I’ll tell you how I feel, so I’m not easy, so I’m not a slut, so I’ll be the best friend, the shoulder to cry on, the one whose been there from the beginning… I rather be that than anything else. You tell me how you feel and I’ll be honest. You tell me you like me and I’ll respond. Break my heart and I won’t fall for it again. You all may laugh and call me stupid, I just laugh and call you all insane. Because the person who doesn’t want to fall in love, to find that perfect person, to find true happiness is lying to themselves.

There comes a point where you need to decide… so go on and make a decision

UPDATE:

in response to you all… because some seem to miss the point of this blog. This blog applies to both male and female, in my case I’m the girl I like guys so my blog is aimed towards guys but guys could change around the gender and it would apply to them too. It’s to all the good people out there, genuinely good people who never seem to be able to find the right one because the other person is either A. hurt to the point of no return, B. they don’t acknowledge you or C. they take you for granted.

This is not to say there aren’t good guys out there for girls or good girls out there for guys. There are. But people don’t pick and choose who they fall for, you kind of just fall for that person for whatever reason.. Be it their personality, looks, good qualities. A friend told me in response to my entry that sometimes good girls are approached by good guys and the good girls don’t want that good guy. Well like I said earlier, people don’t choose who they fall for, it kind of just happens. Feelings and emotions are uncontrollable for the most part and there are going to be people in your life that like you for whatever reason it might be and you are just unable to return those feelings back. It’s not at all your fault that you can’t. It’s like trying to make someone enjoy something they just don’t like. I don’t like carrots. No matter what kind of dressing or topping you put on it at the end of the day I still don’t like carrots. I can’t explain why I don’t like them, I just don’t. So there are some good guys out there that just aren’t compatible with some good girls.

Now that that is out of the way.

To better clarify myself, this blog was referring to those times when girl likes guy, guy likes girl but guy decides to go with the other girl who turns out to be a mistake to then years later realize that the first girl was meant for him. In some cases guy goes to first girl and it’s not too late. In other cases guy goes to first girl and she already has another guy. And in others although girl has another guy she leaves that guy to be with the first. There are different ways the story can end. I am far from pessimistic, this was just a reaction to a frustration that was building up because I hope it all doesn’t end like this. At the end of the day, all you can do is be patient and let things take their course. Be prepared for anything and everything that comes your way and if he/she decide to pick that other guy/girl… Shrug it off, keep it moving. It’s truly their loss.